My parents were not particularly strict in my upbringing. My dad was very hard on me in certain aspects, but, for the most part, they let me do what I wanted in terms of the rules. I imagine it’s partly because they both reached a certain level of financial stability and intellectual might in their adulthood. I have this theory that super strict parents are that way because they are not originally from high socioeconomic backgrounds. They need to be strict for a reason, and that reason may be that they need the money, and, in their mind, being strict and acting “good” is the way to financial stability.
But being overly strict on your child can have potentially negative consequences. I’m not advocating for one method over another, I’m just saying that it really depends on the child. Some children can handle the strictness and it may be beneficial for them, but others will rebel because of the strictness. Furthermore, the rigid adherence to rules I think stifles creativity in many ways, which is something that is immensely valued in our contemporary western society.
The Ivory Tower 
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