The boy decides first

In civilized society, it’s established that it’s always the boy who initiates a romantic relationship. I think the reason for this is that men are typically viewed as being stronger than women and so if the relationship fails, which it often does, the blame is pinned on the man and not the woman. This has, more or less, always been the case.

To make things fair, perhaps it should be the woman who decides when the best time is to have a child, or at least have the majority voice on this matter. At the end of the day, it is her body who will experience the most hardship, and likely her who will be taking care of the kids. I image throughout history, the decision to have a child also rested a lot on the man because men held a lot of power over women, but times are obviously changing and women are beginning to have more say.

In a gay relationship, which is a relatively new thing in history, the dynamics are a bit different because it’s typically either boy-boy or girl-girl. Therefore, the decision to start a courtship is mutual and I think whoever is first is a little more ambiguous and maybe not as important. If a relationship fails, then both experience part of the blame. Is this not the more civilized form of courtship?