I don’t think I’d make a good dad

Much like my own father, who I do respect in certain aspects (but not necessarily as a dad), I don’t think I would make a very good dad myself. My standards are simply too high. I wouldn’t want my child to experience what I experienced with my own dad, which is to constantly strive for a state of perfection and to reach for the impossible. I would do that to my employees if I were an employer, but not necessarily to my own child as I don’t think that’s a great childhood and would set him or her up for failure in a mental health sense not to mention ruin our relationship. I believe children should have normal childhoods and one that is shared by his or her peers–unless maybe you’re dealing with a prodigy. I think that’s the healthiest option for most people to set them up for strong adulthoods.

In a lot of ways, that’s why being gay is beneficial for me. If I do start a family, I need someone who would make a good dad. As an ambitious person, I may appear to be sort of childish to the average person who may have had to sacrifice their ambitions to settle down and raise children. Therefore, being gay to me is really about finding another father figure for both myself and my future children, if I ever have any. I’ve already spoken of the fact that having children is optional for me. I’m neither for nor against it, but if I were to have children–biological or not–I wouldn’t necessarily want me to be the primary father figure.