There’s no logic to love

I’ve written previously about how intelligent people, especially those logic-prone (think math), have an especially hard time with love. That’s sort of established within the medical literature. I’ve come to learn that love does not follow logic. In a college psychology class, for instance, we learned that attraction in relationships is important, at least in the beginning. Attraction is a subjective feeling in the sense that what one individual finds attractive, another may not. It’s like asking someone what their favorite movie is or looking at a painting and rating how much you liked it. There’s no right answer and it’s different for everyone. 

Love works in a similar way. When you fall in love, you just love that other person. It can blind you to how incompatible the two of you may be, it can mask their deficiencies, but love defies logic. There’s no formula, there’s no rules, it just sort of happens. It’s not a fair or just thing. I think that’s what they meant when people say that smart or highly educated individuals, who are trained to be formulaic and follow the rules, are not necessarily great with love. Yet, love is undeniably important in a person’s life. What’s your approach to loving?