There is this stereotypical paradigm of a gay man that is constantly perpetuated on social media: 6 feet, often white, shirtless, handsome or cute, six pack, broad shoulders, you get the idea. It’s not necessarily the image that I have a problem with because that image is actually the healthiest state of being, assuming there’s no underlying drug or psychological issues. It’s really the flaunting of that sort of lifestyle on social media that gives one pause. I feel that teenagers, especially those whose bodies are still in the developing phase, when exposed to such unrealistic beauty standards cannot help but develop low body self image in response to these pictures (some of the doctored) that are ubiquitously associated with social media posts for gay men.
Yet, I don’t necessarily blame these ultra-goodlooking folks for posting either. For many, these are influencers who are simply trying to make a living in the world. It’s their job to do that and that is the incentive structure that’s been set in place by these powerful companies. Yet, we live in a society where these ultra-sexualized images are not only widely available to be consumed, but touted as something for everyone to aspire to. Maybe it’s all just a marketing scheme for the gym industry, and I think a large part of that could very well be.
One thing’s for sure: those Godly physiques that these influencers have does not last forever. Physical beauty is ephemeral. What will happen when all of a sudden the focus on looks fade? Relationships that were started purely on superficial terms would surely crumble if the underlying basis for that relationship were taken away. It really makes you think and almost feel a bit sorry for some of these influencers. Much like actors, are they aware they’re in for the inevitable decay?

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