Love hurts

Love hurts is the title of one of my favorite songs by the band Incubus. One of the chorus lyrics goes something like: “love hurts, but sometimes it’s a good hurt, and it makes me feel alive.” As I’m in the dating market at the moment, I keep thinking about those lines and how they relate to my personal experiences with dating. There are so many challenges to modern dating. I think in older times, it was simpler because men chose women, since women did not have much standing in the workforce or power in society. Yet, with the rise of women, two people need to pick each other, and that’s statistically, I think, a lot harder to do. However, if you ever manage to achieve the feat, I think modern romantic relationships are much more stable than those in previous generations. With gay relationships, the logic is the same because there’s an element of equality to forming a union. 

Yet, at the end of the day, entering into a romantic union can still be disappointing, sort of like how eating a piece of cake is never as satisfying as we want it to be, so we eat more and more and more until our health is completely wrecked. I think love and experiencing love have the same sort of attribute to it, that it’s never enough. Nevertheless, as human beings, we need love as it is an essential nutrient and important for our survival. I think there are people in this world who’ve suppressed love in a way similar to a religious devotee turning their eyes against God, like Lucifer, the fallen angel. To love is a choice much like believing in and devoting oneself to God, but it comes at a price.